You're tired from doing chores, so you sat there a bit to have a quick break and you’ve asked your child to do something... calmly and rationally!
But, you got no answer... So you repeat the plea. Still no answer... again you reminded, and still nothing!
Are you familiar of this kind of scenario? Are you too having a hard time getting your children to follow directions?
“How can I get my kids to listen?” This is one of the most asked questions among parents.
Try this approach to get your kids to listen without yelling or nagging.
To teach your kids to listen the first time, you must help them cultivate the habit of paying attention to what you say. The main part of creating this habit is paying attention to how you talk to them, how you deal with them, how you manage them, how you supervised them. All these boil down to "control".
No, It's not about controlling your child. Parenting is not about controlling your child. Controlling and dominating your child actually doing more harm than good. You see, there are things you couldn't and shouldn't control especially your kids. But, you can control yourself, you can control what you do!
Here's the logic, every time, we tell/demand a strong willed kid or a potentially resistant kid what to do, we risk training them not to listen because we can't follow-through, can we? But here's the good news, a little trick for focusing on controllable, it's called the enforceable statement - it's a way of setting limits that we can actually enforce or follow-through.