Empathy means putting ourselves into our children's shoes and communicating that. Showing empathy involves understanding what your child is going through.
For example, "You're sad, I'm going to be away for one night. You're going to miss me, I'll to miss you too." Once we empathize, we'll have that connection and you often see the feeling diffuse. When we show empathy to our child, we help them calm down and they could begin to regulate their needs, to problem solve, and take care of themselves in another way.
Empathy is one of the key parenting tool to help you understand what’s behind your child's behavior. This may not be easy to some parents but this is something we could grow and learn. It requires active listening. That means giving your full attention and listening to the words and tone of voice. After your child shares something, ask, “Is this what you’re telling me?” Then repeat what you think you heard. That gives your child an opening to correct. It also shows respect for their feelings and perspective.
Empathy has the power to sidestep or diffuse power struggles. This allow your children to experience disappointment and discomfort which is essential and will provide them the opportunity to learn how to do better and to practice new skills.